Table Talks with the Tares

In this episode, I interview Ash about what it's like being married to an avoider. We talk about the challenges of adjusting to a love style that is different from your own and the ways we've had to grow in how to relate to one another.
 
Resources mentioned:
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Next episode recommended:
Ep 25 - How We Love & Argue, The Vacillator, How it affects our relationship
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In this episode we do another hot take with Ashley on a question prompt I gave her regarding the duties of parents in a family. Our discussion moves in several different directions talking about what we think and how we would want to approach leading our family.
 
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We revisit my previous statement about how the Great Commission may not be for everyone. I clarify that statement in this episode saying that while cross cultural evangelism may not be, the call for all believers is to make disciples. 
Episode mentioned:
Ep 108 - Fear of Failure Driving the Holy Search for God's Will in Your Life, On Considering Obedience to God and Serving the Local Body
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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I put Ashley on the hot seat by getting into this conversation without warning or context. I like to get her first drafts on things and so in this conversation we talk about how she has felt she's changed in being able to identify her needs. The conversation morphs into talking about whether or not she thinks she's a people pleaser and how she's let me be the father to our children as we raise them.
Resources mentioned:
Book on Love Styles: How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
 
Next episode recommended: Ep 25 - How We Love & Argue, The Vacillator, How it affects our relationship
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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We unpack how in some cases our search for God's will is seen as a pursuit of holiness but in reality is a fear of failure that could bring ruin to your life. The beauty of the Gospel is that we've already been found out as failures, and the Lord has provided a way out through his son, Jesus Christ. We talk about the implications for a family looking to be obedient to the Lord and how serving in the ministry has changed as we have grown as a family.
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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We talk about the rapid development of Artificial Intelligence and some of the ways we’re currently using it in our house. Then we also discuss how we should think about these quick changes in the technological world we live in as a Christian family. How do we live in the technological world honoring the Lord in how we engage with it. Do we engage with it at all? Do we use it to improve our lives and those around us? 
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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I interview Ashley in this one on what has been the motivating factor for why she basically automatically sets goals for her year at the beginning of each year. We are so different in this regard so we talk about how we approach goal setting from opposite angles. We talk about the goals we’re setting, the systems we use, and the approaches we take.
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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In this episode, we flesh out my (MJ's) initial reactions after Ashley's orders of 2 books arrive at our house. Initially it was a cringy and uncomfortable thought to even entertain having to bring this up to our kids, but after talking it further with her, realized that this conversation might come up a lot sooner than we think.
 
Resources mentioned:
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds
God Made All of Me: A Book to Help Children Protect Their Bodies (God Made Me)
 
Next episode recommended:
Ep 100 - How Adoption Changed Me, The Volatility of New Siblings Joining your Home, Unpacking my Experience
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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As we approach the holidays, I wanted to talk about how we've thought about rest during this time of year. We talk about how social media (or whatever form of endless screen-time/scrolling you pursue) robs you of the rest the Lord wants from you. We also detail how we practice rest through the form of a Saturday Sabbath rest and how that looks like for our specific context. Also, I make the argument that the elimination of hurry does not apply to everyone.
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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As our oldest starts out Kindergarten next year, we have started the discussion and research in finding what we believe to be the best education option for her. We came from diverse educational backgrounds and naturally reverted back to our own experiences as what we believed to be optimal, but after digging through all the options available in our area and realizing that Ashley was actually able to use her own strength set, we decided to home school Evie for her kindergarten year. Tune in to find out more about why we decided to do so!
 
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
 
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