Table Talks with the Tares

Ep 55 - Breaking inter generational habits in parenting, differences we’ve observed in how we individually approach being a mom and a dad

In this episode we share our experiences and perspectives as parents and the differences we bring to the table in raising our children. We also talk about how the children differ from each other even though they are raised by the same parents.
 
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Ep 54 - Taking On Home Improvements as a Visionary versus an Innovator, Contrasting Complementary Family Dynamics

In this episode we talk about how we’ve approached home improvement and home decoration in specifically how our personalities influence how we approach each thing. As people living together with completely different ways of approaching projects, we discuss how this comes together when trying to tackle home improvement projects together. 
We hoped this has helped you gain insight about how you might relate to your significant other, and what type of communication road blocks you run into when a visionary and an innovator.
 
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Ep 53 - Bringing together two different Christmas Traditions, Should Christians include Santa

This episode is an honest conversation about the holiday tradition of Santa. Although we adults know that an overweight bearded stalker who sneaks down your chimney does not bring all the gifts you open on Christmas Day, we ask ourselves how to have that conversation with our children as they catch on to the wonder of Christmas. We ultimately ask ourselves if we should do Santa for Christmas.
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Ep 52 - 1st Podcastversary! Insights after 52 episodes of podcasting, lessons learned, and our vision for the podcast’s future.

In this episode we reflect back on one full year of podcasting and the lessons we’ve learned along the way. We share about our favorite episodes, stats about where you are listening from and our hope for the future with the podcast. We are so grateful to have you joining us at our table and we hope you enjoy this little insight we share on lessons we’ve learned after one year of practicing this habit.
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Ep 51 - Dave Ramsey did wrong, How Ash would consult him professionally

In this episode we unpack the recent episode Dave Ramsey had on his radio show where he claimed that you can safely draw 8% of your retirement portfolio annually (I would argue this is way too aggressive). But if you can momentarily set aside the factual error with extremely consequential repercussions on people’s retirement outlook, we take time to address the way in which he corrected an employee that had a blog post claiming a more conservative 3-4% annual withdrawal rate. I also quiz Ash on how she would coach Dave Ramsey, if she was coaching him.
Here’s the clip of Dave Ramsey correcting his employee about the withdrawal rate (the 8% segment is at 1:13:47): https://www.youtube.com/live/Xg4Z8EQY3Ao?si=l3OPTpA61N634nem
If you’re interested, here’s a link from Ben Felix, a Canadian portfolio manager that provides a quick explainer video reacting to Dave’s claim on  the 8% withdrawal rate: https://youtu.be/Hhg6dB2UcAs?si=ezhUFVQ1GDECNKtk
 
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Ep 50 - Breadth vs Depth in Marriage, Vulnerability breeds intimacy, and checking in on our marriage

In this episode we talk about where we’re at in our marriage and checking in with each other on how to continue investing in our relationship when placed in a new environment and raising young kids. We unpack how we’ve noticed that becoming vulnerable with others creates intimacy in relationship, where you can be fully known and still loved. Finally, Ash talks about in this season of our marriage we are learning to work with what we have, and that breadth of time in relationship does not necessarily equal depth in relationship.
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Ep 49 - Plugging Into the Local Church after Moving, Continuing conversations about ministry, Sourdough Update

After recording our last episode (Ep 48), we realized we may be better off clarifying a few things. In this episode we take it fireside and talk more about where we’re at in how we believe we should be involved in the church as a young family. We take some time to further unpack the conversation we had last episode and clarifying that we do see it as essential to be part of the local body, but how do we do it in a way that is sustainable and life giving to the family. Listen in to hear more!
 
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Ep 48 - The dangers of only calling it ministry when its inside the church, making sourdough bread

In this episode we parse out where we’re at in the journey of identifying and practicing ministry as a family. We look out how it tends to be defined in the church and point out the importance of not limiting “ministry” to what is within the predetermined confines of the church.
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Ep 47 - Hits Different: Going to weddings as a new parent, what I would tell my younger self

In this episode we share our experience of participating in a wedding through the lens of being a new parent of young kids. How it hits different as a mother/father of a boy and a mother/father of a girl. We look back at memories of our own wedding and try to predict how we would feel marrying off our children some time in the future. Finally, Ash asks what I would tell my younger self prior to getting married … prepare for a sermon. I fleshed out what I am currently working through understanding and practicing abiding in the good news of the Gospel.
 
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Ep 46 - Why a hyper-pragmatic view on conversation sometimes fails, living with an external processor

In this episode we breakdown a breakdown in conversation where we had different expectations for what we were talking about. In one hand it was to vent and externalization so as to be reassured that it is okay, on the other hand it was a hyper-pragmatic view on communication that minimizes interaction based on needs. We’re extremely different so it makes for very lively conversations. Hope you enjoy!
 
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