Table Talks with the Tares

136 - Preparing for the 100 days of darkness… again

We're gearing up for baby #3, and that means diving headfirst into the newborn trenches… again. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to prep for sleepless nights while still showing up for two other kids who (shocker) still need us. From setting up systems at home to keeping our marriage from combusting under pressure, this one’s real, a little raw, and full of practical thoughts if you’re about to do the newborn season all over again or maybe for the first time.
 
Next episode recommended: Ep 8 How Parenthood Changed Us
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135 - Any Day Now: What This Season is Teaching Me About Waiting

We’re in the thick of it waiting for baby #3 to make her debut any day now, and this season is stretching us in ways we didn’t expect. In this episode, we talk about what it’s like to sit in the tension of anticipation, grief, and surrender all at once. We’re learning that waiting isn’t just about being still, it requires some action on our part.
If you’re in a similar season facing unknown outcomes, this one's an honest look at how we’re learning to move forward with confidence and peace.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-95-family-dynamics-pt-7-dealing-with-transitions/id1661247515?i=1000673009125
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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134 - Recalibrating My Response to My Kids’ Jealousy

This week we’re talking about something we’re actively learning in real-time ➡️ how to help our 5-year-old navigate jealousy without jumping straight to correction or shame. We share how we’re working on checking our own reactions, encouraging a family culture that welcomes vulnerability, and helping her learn to speak truth over what she’s feeling. It’s honest, messy, and hopefully encouraging if you’re in a similar season.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-20-relationships-our-conflicting-emotions-how/id1661247515?i=1000609273371
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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133 - The Legacy We Hope to Build, Not Raising Entitled Kids

It seems like everyone is buzzing about the declining birth rate and implications for the future. In this episode, we’re sharing our vision for what we want our family to be about and how we’re intentionally pushing back against the cultural messages that tell us individualism and self-expression are the ultimate goals of life. We talk about the legacy we hope to build, the roles of fatherhood and motherhood in shaping it, and how we’re learning to lead our home with purpose, not just react to what’s around us. If you’ve ever questioned the “normal” script for family life, this one’s for you.
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Resources:
Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-not-raise-entitled-kids-no-matter-how-much-you/id1447768183?i=1000715765319
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-raise-kids-who-want-to-become-parents/id1447768183?i=1000702024882
Family Teams Resources: https://familyteams.com/
Shawn Ryan Show interview with Katherine Boyle (23:50 - 40:40) - A discussion on the implications of the declining birth rate on the country’s future:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GePNdT790gU
‌Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-57-how-to-date-as-new-parents-moving-to-a-new/id1661247515?i=1000640892554
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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132 - 9 Years In… and We Still Read Each Other Like a Book

After 9 years of marriage, you’d think we’d know each other pretty well—turns out, we really do. In this episode, we play a game of “Guess My Perspective” and try to predict how the other person thinks, reacts, and handles everyday situations. Spoiler: we’re more in sync than we thought.
Next episode recommended: Ep 76 - Why “Preparing for Marriage” Advice is Misleading, Reflecting on how we met, lessons from life we lived in singleness
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
 
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131 Embracing Life’s Lows: Strategies When You’re Not At Your Best

In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to keep going when you’re running on empty. We share how we each refill our tanks, what we’ve learned about showing up with limited energy and time, and why it’s okay to not be operating at 100%. If you’re in a season where even the basics feel hard, this one’s a reminder that small steps still count.
 
Next episode recommended: Ep 93 - Family Dynamics Pt 5: Self-Care for Parents: Finding Balance in a Busy World
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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130 - What we didn’t expect about expecting, desirability during pregnancy

In this episode, we’re talking about what it’s really like being pregnant the third time around—how we each connect (or don’t right away) with the baby, what’s surprised us this time, and the mix of excitement and reality that comes with growing our family. We also open up about how pregnancy impacts feelings of desirability and intimacy, and how we’re learning to stay close in a season full of change.
Resources mentioned:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbmCIQHYUCs The Dumbest Things EV Owners Do - YouTube
https://honestunderscore.com/blog/duality-of-motherhood
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-111-should-household-and-parenting/id1661247515?i=1000690805482
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Ep 129 - Married to ADHD: What we didn’t see coming

In this episode, we’re opening up about Ash’s recent ADD diagnosis—what led to it, how it’s shaped her day-to-day life, and the strategies she’s learning to work with her brain instead of against it. We also talk about how it’s impacted our marriage, communication, and understanding of each other. If you’ve ever felt like your brain works a little differently (or love someone who does) — this one’s for you.
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Resources mentioned:
Book: https://a.co/d/fBe66OO
Podcast episode discussing facts vs. assumptions about ADHD: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/navigating-adhd-facts-and-fiction-w-dr-stephen-faraone/id1481135244?i=1000677321080
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-79-how-i-cured-my-insomnia-after-4-years-3-doctors/id1661247515?i=1000658440692
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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128 - Are We Good? Money & Marriage Miscommunication

In this episode, we dive into MJ’s internal debate about upgrading his Corolla to an EV—and the conversations it sparked between us. We talk about how we navigate mismatched priorities, especially when a decision feels important to one of us but not urgent to the other, and how we try to stay aligned in the decisions that shape our budget.‌
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/table-talks-with-the-tares/id1661247515?i=1000653897918
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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127 - From Recipient to Giver: Intentionality in Every Season

In this episode, we’re talking about why hosting matters so much to us. Back in our college days, we were shaped by families who opened their homes, made space at their tables, and poured into us in ways we’ll never forget. Now, we get to pay it forward—and invite our kids into that same rhythm of generosity. Whether hospitality comes naturally to you or feels intimidating, we hope this conversation encourages you to see the beauty in simply making room for others.
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Resources mentioned:
Espresso Machine: https://www.breville.com/en-us/product/bes450
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-12-the-sabbath-our-foundational-rhythm/id1661247515?i=1000600545828
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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