Table Talks with the Tares
Husband and wife duo MJ & Ash believe honest self-reflection is a critical component in growth. Listen in on their conversations as they process what their words and actions are currently cultivating in their home, work, relationships, and ministry.
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Monday Apr 21, 2025
Monday Apr 21, 2025
We’re back with Part 2 of our marriage rewind—picking up where we left off and diving deeper into how our perspectives, habits, and relationship dynamics have evolved over the last 9 years. If you enjoyed Part 1, this one’s even more fun. Let’s just say… growth is humbling. 😅
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-120-then-versus-now-comparing-the-1st-year-and/id1661247515?i=1000703445699
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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Monday Apr 14, 2025
Monday Apr 14, 2025
We just hit 9 years of marriage, so we’re taking a fun look back at year 1 on all the ways life has changed since and what we’ve learned along the way.
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-70-8-years-strong-part-1-reviewing-reddits-marriage/id1661247515?i=1000651760696
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Apr 07, 2025
Monday Apr 07, 2025
In this episode, we’re diving into what it looks like to recognize narcissistic traits in someone and how to set healthy boundaries without losing yourself in the process. Ash talks through some of the signs, the emotional toll it can take, and what it looks like to navigate those relationships with clarity and compassion. If you’ve ever felt drained, second-guessed your instincts, or struggled to maintain your peace around someone with a strong personality, we hope this arms you with the right tools to navigate these treacherous paths.
Next episode recommended: Ep 55 - Breaking inter generational habits in parenting, differences we’ve observed in how we individually approach being a mom and a dad
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.
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For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Mar 31, 2025
Monday Mar 31, 2025
In this episode, we pick up where we left off and dive into part 2 of our discipleship conversation—this time unpacking the idea that discipleship is more like a lab, or apprenticeship, than a lecture process. It’s meant to involve on-the-job training that exposes the vulnerable parts of your life where you are obeying and following Jesus. If you’ve been wondering whether or not you’ve been obedient to the mandate for discipleship, we hope this encourages you.
Resources mentioned:
Podcast episode: Redefining Discipleship: A Blueprint for Life on Life
Part 1 of this series: Ep 117 - Discipleship in 2025. So what is it really?
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.
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For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Mar 24, 2025
Monday Mar 24, 2025
We’ve been asking ourselves: What does discipleship really look like in 2025?
After listening to a podcast episode by Jeremy Prior on life-on-life discipleship, we’ve found ourselves rethinking what it means to be a disciple-maker.
This episode is raw and honest and full of real-time processing. If you’ve ever felt like discipleship should be more than a Bible study and a once-a-month coffee, this conversation is for you.
Resources mentioned:
Podcast episode: Redefining Discipleship: A Blueprint for Life on Life
Next episode recommended: Ep 110 - Is the Great Commission for Everyone? What it means to make disciples.
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Mar 17, 2025
Monday Mar 17, 2025
In this episode Ashley interviews MJ to get his take and experience being married to a vacillator. We discuss the experience in our marriage over the last 9 years and the journey of a vacillator/avoider couple.
Resources mentioned:
Book: How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Love Style Quiz: What is a Love Style?
Table Talks with the Tares
Ep 26 - How MJ Loves, the Avoider, What I would tell my younger self
Next episode recommended:
Ep 112 - What's it like being married to an Avoider?
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Mar 10, 2025
Monday Mar 10, 2025
In this episode we're discussing how we're approaching having baby #3. Is this third one really easier or is it really just adding more to the chaos of parenting?
Resources mentioned:
Podcast Juice: https://www.buffalotracedistillery.com/our-brands/buffalo-trace.html
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: www.honestunderscore.com.
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For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Mar 03, 2025
Monday Mar 03, 2025
In this episode we talk about the different default settings we have when we consider bringing up offenses someone has committed against you. One prefers to confront with it, the other would rather absorb it and move on. We explore our unique approaches to the issue of confrontation and how it helps us shape a balanced ethic when teaching correction and confrontation to our kids.
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore .
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Feb 24, 2025
Monday Feb 24, 2025
In this episode, we reflect on our time with my mom and how her visit highlighted the cultural differences in how we each handle conflict—one shaped by honor/shame and the other by justice/guilt. We explore how these deep-rooted approaches surface in marriage and what it means to navigate apologies, accountability, and grace when worlds collide.
Resources mentioned:
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Next episode recommended:
Ep 112 - What's it like being married to an Avoider?
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore .
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.
Monday Feb 17, 2025
Monday Feb 17, 2025
In this episode, I interview Ash about what it's like being married to an avoider. We talk about the challenges of adjusting to a love style that is different from your own and the ways we've had to grow in how to relate to one another.
Resources mentioned:
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Next episode recommended:
Ep 25 - How We Love & Argue, The Vacillator, How it affects our relationship
Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore .
Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!
For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.