Table Talks with the Tares

Ep 156 - One tool we’re using to work through conflict

In this episode, we break down a recent conflict and how we worked through it. We talk about how ADHD shows up in our relationship especially in moments of tension, how differently we experience conflict, and the tools we’re using to move toward each other instead of away.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/143-whats-in-my-adhd-parenting-toolkit-what-actually-helps/id1661247515?i=1000727849431
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155 - How we navigate a low capacity season as a family

In this episode, we’re taking inventory. We share how we’re applying the things we’ve been learning lately to both marriage and parenting, what’s landing, what’s missing, and what needs more attention in this season. It's a real-time check-in and reminder that growth takes time.
 
Resources mentioned -
Books:
ADHD is Awesome: A Guide To (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans
The Joy of Slow: Restoring Balance and Wonder to Homeschool Learning
Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives
Little Men (Puffin Classics)
The Blue Fairy Book: Illustrated by Henry Ford and G. P. Jacomb-Hood
Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men
The Awakening of Miss Prim: A Novel
THE LION, THE WITCH AND THE WARDROBE A Story for Children; the Chronicles of Narnia Volume 1
 
Resources that have shaped my philosophical view of education:
Homeschool Made Simple
Home - Homeschool Made Simple
The Commonplace
The Commonplace | Classical CM Home Education
 
Mother Academia Course: Mother Academia 2026 | (I think we're calling it a personal curriculum these days.) | Study with me!
 
Discipleship Course: Life On Life Discipleship
 
Next episode recommended: 153 - Why Running Without Margin Always Catches Up to You
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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154 - Controlling the controllables and a shortcut to real connection

Running on fumes? Same.
In this episode, we’re talking about how lack of sleep can crank up the tension in our home and how we’ve learned to recognize and navigate it without turning on each other. It’s honest, practical, and full of the little things that help us reset when we’re running low.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/131-embracing-lifes-lows-strategies-when-youre-not/id1661247515?i=1000715120895
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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153 - Why Running Without Margin Always Catches Up to You

“Rest is not indulgence, it’s obedience to how we were made.” - Dr. Richard Swenson
In this episode, we’re talking about what it actually looks like to create margin in the middle of a full life. From shifting expectations to tweaking routines, we’re sharing the small but intentional changes we’ve made to get more aligned, breathe a little easier, and make space for real rest without dropping the ball on everything else.
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Resources mentioned:
Margin: https://www.amazon.com/Margin-Restoring-Emotional-Financial-Overloaded/dp/1576836827/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2DYL5S70YOAVP&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.2H01AXY9fykr5P1X3FXkwjbMUpekSUHeen7QdfZt_BN3VEaDDMHJQcCMQDZcToOYMNHEGRI8qz7QQpMq88j1S-TrkWCq_R52O_Zp5sHFCNTCIdTmeQlahY1od67ddc5-vSG5dM6jEJ0hTJ2P2Rk6TWjnq52JnPECB6E8kaFCm7Vyvko68Teyuta-iXIA6gbA3Ue7-PDrvSL-35LGHXlo2t4bhB-Y0t1oGDCXeTAitzk.IHDg5cTB3bZKo-yea9tkYNvAY-aVrR405DSZlyhACkU&dib_tag=se&keywords=margin&qid=1764547695&sprefix=margin%2Caps%2C192&sr=8-1
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/150-why-you-should-run-your-family-like-a-business/id1661247515?i=1000736086043
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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152 - What are you reading, lessons from our kids, and living by principles

We’ve laid the groundwork with our family vision and weekly meetings, and now we’re getting intentional about the kind of values we want to pass on to our kids. In this episode, we share how we’re building a simple system to capture the truths, phrases, and principles that help steer our children’s imaginations and affections toward what is good, true, and beautiful. It’s all about turning big ideals into repeatable everyday language our family can live by.
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Resources mentioned -
https://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Power-Mimetic-Desire-Everyday/dp/1250262488/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1B5KIDGM483TB&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.raziX_bpmhwc-YgbtsxDRY5c3HcE7xOx_zo-QAjZTnMXR6KYoOz1uD0sugYMFI-Dm-_ilVLu9I9HQdcMAr6rc83uhDoEBlc5sBHiUZG81EX-tdho-jSk0p9VftaGNMdUd-jANiOmo6enCsG920N-M416wx-oBdOT9d1MlTm-0JywvDBJ0caFD8yryIOijjhARt3l3hq6PBk7nN-WyJ7-7dGasuE58y9NpXWjk5q5jW8.Ugd7y5gKdPRtGzLZvVXJg_bSuvmM38hGnVdNslihqgQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=wanting&qid=1763931870&sprefix=wanting%2Caps%2C166&sr=8-1
https://www.youtube.com/@thecommonplacehomeschool/videos
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-commonplace/id1568956517
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/150-why-you-should-run-your-family-like-a-business/id1661247515?i=1000736086043
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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151 - The Tiny Weekly Habit That Made Us Better Parents

Family meetings with a newborn?!
Yeah, it sounds kind of impossible, but somehow, we’re making it work. In this episode, we talk about how we squeeze in a family meeting, why it’s been clutch for staying connected, and how it helps us stop side-eyeing each other mid-week. It’s not perfect, but it’s been a game changer for keeping communication open and making sure we’re on the same team, especially when we’re running on fumes.
Resources mentioned:
Fitness Programs — Tony Horton Life
Yoga With Adriene
 
Next episode recommended: 150 - Why You Should Run Your Family Like A Business
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
 
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150 - Why You Should Run Your Family Like A Business

Let’s be real, crafting a family vision sounds great... until you’re knee-deep in diapers, dishes, and meltdowns. In this episode, we talk about why having a clear vision for our family actually does help in the chaos. From how we parent to how we set the tone in our home, naming where we’re headed brings clarity, peace, and more unity. We share how we’re trying to create language around habits and character and invite you into our process.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-99-when-a-visionary-and-an-optimizer-make/id1661247515?i=1000676482321
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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149 - The Great EV Breakdown (Not the Car, Just Me)

In this episode, we share a real-life glimpse into MJ’s recent road trip… and the not-so-smooth EV charging saga that came with it. It’s light, honest, and a little too relatable if you’ve ever had plans derailed by technology. From range anxiety to recalculating plans on the fly, we’re laughing through it now, but let’s just say it wasn’t funny in the moment.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/128-are-we-good-money-marriage-miscommunication/id1661247515?i=1000712071408
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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148 - How To Prepare For Weekends with Extended Family

We just came back from a family wedding, which meant traveling with kids, staying out of routine, and all with a newborn in tow! In this episode, we talk about what we’ve learned (and are still learning) when it comes to visiting family, how we set expectations, try to keep our rhythms intact, and bounce back when everything goes off track. If you've ever felt both grateful andoverwhelmed by family time, this one’s for you.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-95-family-dynamics-pt-7-dealing-with-transitions/id1661247515?i=1000673009125
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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147 - When the Past Shows Up - 3 ways to face your yesterday

Sometimes it’s not the present that’s hard, it’s the past creeping back in. In this episode, we talk about when old habits, patterns, or insecurities resurface, especially in seasons of stress or change. We share 3 ways we’ve learned to deal with the past when it reappears and how to respond with honesty, growth, and grace. Whether you're healing, navigating old triggers, or just trying to stay present, this one’s for you.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-120-then-versus-now-comparing-the-1st-year-and/id1661247515?i=1000703445699
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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