Table Talks with the Tares

164 - Married to your financial opposite. Designer versus durable: the hidden values behind what we buy

In this episode, we realized we don’t actually think about “stuff” the same way. One of us leans toward practicality… the other notices the brand. What is that really about? We talk through how status subtly pulls on us, how it shows up in purchases and preferences, and why certain things feel important even when we know they probably shouldn’t.
 
Resources mentioned:
Watch: Panthère de Cartier watch
Fresh Avocado Vine
Books:
You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit
The Overcomers: God's Vision for You to Thrive in an Age of Anxiety and Outrage
Funkin Park: Linkin Park's - Greatest Hits (If they were FUNK)
Next episode recommended: Ep 113 - Who should say sorry first? When honor/shame and justice/guilt cultures get married.
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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163 - Love when Capacity is Low

Valentine’s Day hits different when you’re sleep-deprived and surrounded by tiny humans! In this episode, we reflect on how love looked when we first started dating vs. what connection looks like now in a low capacity season. From shifting expectations to finding small moments that matter, we talk about how we keep choosing each other through every stage of life.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/154-controlling-the-controllables-and-a-shortcut/id1661247515?i=1000740203183
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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162 - Why We Chose a Literature-Based Approach to Learning

In this episode, we’re talking about our approach to homeschooling and why we’ve fallen in love with the Homeschool Made Simple method. It’s research-based, interest-led, and literature rich which has brought so much simplicity, freedom, and actual joy to our days.
Whether you're deep in homeschool life or just curious what it could look like, we’re pulling back the curtain on what’s worked, what’s surprised us, and how we’ve made learning a natural part of our family rhythm.
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Resources mentioned:
Homeschool Made Simple: https://homeschoolmadesimple.net/
Homeschool Philosophy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/212-homeschool-made-simple-educational-philosophy-in/id1506875183?i=1000654143902
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Morning Rhythm Resources:
https://a.co/d/9R5IXQ4
https://a.co/d/evd1wem
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/158-how-to-make-screen-time-a-non-issue-family-health-reset/id1661247515?i=1000743802873
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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161 - Follow the Money: What Our Spending Says About Our Hearts

In this episode, we open up about how we think about money, what matters to us, what systems have worked in different seasons, and what still trips us up (spoiler: it’s not just the coffee budget). We’re sharing the real talk behind aligning priorities and figuring out finances as a team. If money convos usually stress you out, this one’s for you.
Resources mentioned:
Budgeting app mentioned: https://www.monarch.com/
Budgeting app we actually use: https://goodbudget.com/
Driving app mentioned: https://comma.ai/openpilot
Mimetic desire: https://a.co/d/6dQ1nDF
Inside joke: https://www.tiktok.com/@ladbible/video/7555943643681410337
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/128-are-we-good-money-marriage-miscommunication/id1661247515?i=1000712071408
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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160 - How we’re building health habits that actually stick

In this episode, we’re breaking down where we’re at with our health goals. We talk about our journey from keto to strength training, what postpartum has looked like the 3rd time around, and how we’re (slowly) able to prioritize working out again without going to extremes. If you’re trying to get back into a rhythm with your health and need a reminder that slow is still progress, this one’s for you.
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Resources mentioned:
https://stronglifts.com/
https://fasterwaytofatloss.com/?utm_term=&utm_campaign=Google+Display:+Acquire+New+Users&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=5085131482&hsa_cam=23285086799&hsa_grp=&hsa_ad=&hsa_src=x&hsa_tgt=&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23285088428&gbraid=0AAAAACzsm0YueGBxf5_p3u65jx10OK37l&gclid=Cj0KCQiAprLLBhCMARIsAEDhdPfnq46JGoNRrHzBeKoKmAWhe2oGubqIvfNdQOdG2l01bXOgSeDtSdYaAoufEALw_wcB
https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/maps-fitness-individual-programs?gc_id=22795775976&h_ga_id=181300227486&h_ad_id=792699586949&h_keyword_id=kwd-462919115013&h_keyword=mind%20pump%20media&h_placement=&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22795775976&gbraid=0AAAAADhtWENdDpAE1QWxGw4orgvXzs0cz&gclid=Cj0KCQiAprLLBhCMARIsAEDhdPc4cB6KbiJTAnZFsGh6G45izIiZARY6IiKUbRuJqEaUexvlXUCPnBMaArgCEALw_wcB
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-9-the-1-conflict-in-our-relationship-probably/id1661247515?i=1000597249218
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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159 - Rethinking Resolutions: Why we’re focusing on habits not hustle

We’re kicking off a new series all about setting realistic goals for our family and individually. In this episode, we unpack how our approach to goal-setting has shifted this year being less about crushing checklists and more about cultivating the kind of people we want to become. We’re talking habit-based goals, rightly ordering our loves, and getting clear on wha’s actually important in this season.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to “do it all,” this one’s for you.
Resources mentioned:
https://www.blueletterbible.org/nlt/1th/4/11-12/s_1115011
https://www.blueletterbible.org/esv/2co/3/18/s_1081018
https://a.co/d/goo4rGW
https://a.co/d/gbWxbvL
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/146-seeking-the-sacred-work-of-ordinary-days-what/id1661247515?i=1000731579553
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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158 - How to make screen time a non-issue, family health reset

We’re kicking off the year by talking about where we’re at with tech and health in our home because to be honest, both could use a reset. From managing screen time with our kids to realizing we’ve been leaning hard into convenience (hello, Chick-Fil-A nugs), we’re reflecting on what’s working, what’s not, and the one degree changes we’re making to feel more like ourselves again. If you’re needing a health revamp too, listen in!
Bible verse:
2 Corinthians 3:18
And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
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Brazo de Mercedes recipe we used: https://panlasangpinoy.com/brazo-de-mercedes-cake-recipe/ 
 
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-107-artificial-intelligence-pondering-the-correct/id1661247515?i=1000683768395
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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157 - 2025 Table Talks Wrapped, The Big Habit We Want to Model: Reading

As we wrap up the year, we’re reflecting on the rhythms that helped us keep our sanity in a season of constant unpredictability. From cozy book moments with the kids (thank you, Christmas gifts) to kitchen chaos trying to recreate Gram’s iconic cookies, we’re reflecting on what worked, what didn’t, and what we want more of in the new year.
Resources mentioned:
Book: https://a.co/d/1FJK5e0
Love Style Episodes:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-25-how-we-love-argue-the-vacillator-how-it-affects/id1661247515?i=1000613984775
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-26-how-mj-loves-the-avoider-what-i-would-tell-my/id1661247515?i=1000614852622
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-27-how-the-vacillator-and-avoider-collide/id1661247515?i=1000615699628
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-28-lessons-of-a-vacillator-and-avoider/id1661247515?i=1000616625402
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-119-how-to-avoid-getting-sucked-into-a/id1661247515?i=1000702501261
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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156 - One tool we’re using to work through conflict

In this episode, we break down a recent conflict and how we worked through it. We talk about how ADHD shows up in our relationship especially in moments of tension, how differently we experience conflict, and the tools we’re using to move toward each other instead of away.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/143-whats-in-my-adhd-parenting-toolkit-what-actually-helps/id1661247515?i=1000727849431
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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155 - How we navigate a low capacity season as a family

In this episode, we’re taking inventory. We share how we’re applying the things we’ve been learning lately to both marriage and parenting, what’s landing, what’s missing, and what needs more attention in this season. It's a real-time check-in and reminder that growth takes time.
 
Resources mentioned -
Books:
ADHD is Awesome: A Guide To (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans
The Joy of Slow: Restoring Balance and Wonder to Homeschool Learning
Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives
Little Men (Puffin Classics)
The Blue Fairy Book: Illustrated by Henry Ford and G. P. Jacomb-Hood
Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men
The Awakening of Miss Prim: A Novel
THE LION, THE WITCH AND THE WARDROBE A Story for Children; the Chronicles of Narnia Volume 1
 
Resources that have shaped my philosophical view of education:
Homeschool Made Simple
Home - Homeschool Made Simple
The Commonplace
The Commonplace | Classical CM Home Education
 
Mother Academia Course: Mother Academia 2026 | (I think we're calling it a personal curriculum these days.) | Study with me!
 
Discipleship Course: Life On Life Discipleship
 
Next episode recommended: 153 - Why Running Without Margin Always Catches Up to You
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.
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