Table Talks with the Tares

132 - 9 Years In… and We Still Read Each Other Like a Book

After 9 years of marriage, you’d think we’d know each other pretty well—turns out, we really do. In this episode, we play a game of “Guess My Perspective” and try to predict how the other person thinks, reacts, and handles everyday situations. Spoiler: we’re more in sync than we thought.
Next episode recommended: Ep 76 - Why “Preparing for Marriage” Advice is Misleading, Reflecting on how we met, lessons from life we lived in singleness
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
 
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131 Embracing Life’s Lows: Strategies When You’re Not At Your Best

In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to keep going when you’re running on empty. We share how we each refill our tanks, what we’ve learned about showing up with limited energy and time, and why it’s okay to not be operating at 100%. If you’re in a season where even the basics feel hard, this one’s a reminder that small steps still count.
 
Next episode recommended: Ep 93 - Family Dynamics Pt 5: Self-Care for Parents: Finding Balance in a Busy World
 
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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130 - What we didn’t expect about expecting, desirability during pregnancy

In this episode, we’re talking about what it’s really like being pregnant the third time around—how we each connect (or don’t right away) with the baby, what’s surprised us this time, and the mix of excitement and reality that comes with growing our family. We also open up about how pregnancy impacts feelings of desirability and intimacy, and how we’re learning to stay close in a season full of change.
Resources mentioned:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbmCIQHYUCs The Dumbest Things EV Owners Do - YouTube
https://honestunderscore.com/blog/duality-of-motherhood
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-111-should-household-and-parenting/id1661247515?i=1000690805482
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Ep 129 - Married to ADHD: What we didn’t see coming

In this episode, we’re opening up about Ash’s recent ADD diagnosis—what led to it, how it’s shaped her day-to-day life, and the strategies she’s learning to work with her brain instead of against it. We also talk about how it’s impacted our marriage, communication, and understanding of each other. If you’ve ever felt like your brain works a little differently (or love someone who does) — this one’s for you.
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Resources mentioned:
Book: https://a.co/d/fBe66OO
Podcast episode discussing facts vs. assumptions about ADHD: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/navigating-adhd-facts-and-fiction-w-dr-stephen-faraone/id1481135244?i=1000677321080
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-79-how-i-cured-my-insomnia-after-4-years-3-doctors/id1661247515?i=1000658440692
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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128 - Are We Good? Money & Marriage Miscommunication

In this episode, we dive into MJ’s internal debate about upgrading his Corolla to an EV—and the conversations it sparked between us. We talk about how we navigate mismatched priorities, especially when a decision feels important to one of us but not urgent to the other, and how we try to stay aligned in the decisions that shape our budget.‌
Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/table-talks-with-the-tares/id1661247515?i=1000653897918
Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
Visit our website: www.honestunderscore.com.
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127 - From Recipient to Giver: Intentionality in Every Season

In this episode, we’re talking about why hosting matters so much to us. Back in our college days, we were shaped by families who opened their homes, made space at their tables, and poured into us in ways we’ll never forget. Now, we get to pay it forward—and invite our kids into that same rhythm of generosity. Whether hospitality comes naturally to you or feels intimidating, we hope this conversation encourages you to see the beauty in simply making room for others.
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Resources mentioned:
Espresso Machine: https://www.breville.com/en-us/product/bes450
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-12-the-sabbath-our-foundational-rhythm/id1661247515?i=1000600545828
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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126 - Agree to Disagree. How we’ve had to learn to get along

We don’t always see things the same way—and honestly, we used to handle that poorly.In this episode, we’re talking about how we’ve learned to disagree without turning it into a battle. From staying curious to asking better questions, we’ve found that it’s totally possible to have different opinions and still stay connected. If you’ve ever struggled to have hard conversations without things getting heated, this one’s for you.
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Resources mentioned: https://a.co/d/ji98x7s
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-6-its-all-about-communication/id1661247515?i=1000593165224
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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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Ep 125 - Reacting to Reddits Unpopular Parenting Opinions

In this episode, we’re diving into Reddit’s most unpopular parenting opinions and sharing our own hot takes. We’re weighing in on what we agree with, what made us laugh, and what we’re still figuring out. It’s honest, lighthearted, and a fun look at the many ways to parent.
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-17-relationships-shoulder-to-shoulder-vs-face-to/id1661247515?i=1000606081801
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Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
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Ep 124 Pregnant with Life, Surrounded by Loss

In this episode, we open up about what it’s been like to walk through pregnancy while carrying the weight of recent losses. We talk about how grief has impacted Ash’s mindset, fears she’s working through, and how we’re learning to support each other through it all. If you’ve ever found yourself wrestling with self-doubt, feeling stuck, or wondering if you have what it takes to overcome an obstacle—this one’s for you.
Resources mentioned:
Dwell App: https://dwellapp.io/
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-84-when-grief-hits-conversations-on-loss-and-hope/id1661247515?i=1000663667298
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Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
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Ep 123 Stop Outsourcing Discipleship - Here’s what works at Home

This week, we’re getting super practical in walking through how we practice discipleship in our home. We talk about weekly rhythms like Sabbath, how we use holidays to point our kids to Jesus, and tools we’ve found helpful for letting our faith drive our weekly rhythms.
Resources:
Book: https://a.co/d/gDpWZyk
Resurrection Eggs: https://www.amazon.com/FAMILYLIFE-Family-Life-Resurrection-Anniversary/dp/B0CTGT7PY3?crid=125RUMJB3N034&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1Q_mqOm90pGHvUmxSA9qVpLWHzCLyDtlhLUo5f0Ztio-Wut4ngWImO_bbzpsI8iSGvKvYf8ThhBYs-ZKdSMiOLSpivTBxhs7zlujQdr_LazOehA8mq6clxt4BgZHcirh4nnXyaJVpy01H9YkQTbz5KPLsTKwS4gKuas581-72UQF_eo6g3lCiiONnVjk4iFbCw3DQenNzTEvoFqCKjThtD5mZQhxvImQddJAwmyACtL8V-b0vxRjzuqmHg1LVRIzUX-6Qk9K2RW457t9xxvMfEwQ1onRh29mdUxcCMPvieM.8YkWQUJIVzcrc4fEOuPfy7xrTnOTmzOcxNu8thwBhng&dib_tag=se&keywords=resurrection%2Beggs&qid=1746413399&sprefix=resu%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-1&th=1
Easter Book: https://a.co/d/cjUAmQ7
Character Cards: https://septemberandco.com/collections/character/products/character-matters-cards?variant=37440423428258
The Family Teams Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-family-teams-podcast/id1447768183
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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-89-family-dynamics-series-part-1-keeping-the-spark/id1661247515?i=1000668034998
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Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life.
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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.
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