Table Talks with the Tares

Ep 115 - Third Time’s the Charm… or Is it? Preparing for Baby #3

In this episode we're discussing how we're approaching having baby #3. Is this third one really easier or is it really just adding more to the chaos of parenting?
 
Resources mentioned:
Podcast Juice: https://www.buffalotracedistillery.com/our-brands/buffalo-trace.html 
 
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Ep 114 - How to confront someone you love, the different cultural backgrounds we bring to our family

In this episode we talk about the different default settings we have when we consider bringing up offenses someone has committed against you. One prefers to confront with it, the other would rather absorb it and move on. We explore our unique approaches to the issue of confrontation and how it helps us shape a balanced ethic when teaching correction and confrontation to our kids.
 
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Ep 113 - Who should say sorry first? When honor/shame and justice/guilt cultures get married.

In this episode, we reflect on our time with my mom and how her visit highlighted the cultural differences in how we each handle conflict—one shaped by honor/shame and the other by justice/guilt. We explore how these deep-rooted approaches surface in marriage and what it means to navigate apologies, accountability, and grace when worlds collide.
 
Resources mentioned:
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Next episode recommended:
Ep 112 - What's it like being married to an Avoider?
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Ep 112 - What's it like being married to an Avoider?

In this episode, I interview Ash about what it's like being married to an avoider. We talk about the challenges of adjusting to a love style that is different from your own and the ways we've had to grow in how to relate to one another.
 
Resources mentioned:
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Next episode recommended:
Ep 25 - How We Love & Argue, The Vacillator, How it affects our relationship
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Ep 111 - Should household and parenting responsibilities be 50/50? The unique value proposition of a mother and a father

In this episode we do another hot take with Ashley on a question prompt I gave her regarding the duties of parents in a family. Our discussion moves in several different directions talking about what we think and how we would want to approach leading our family.
 
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Ep 110 - Is the Great Commission for Everyone? What it means to make disciples.

We revisit my previous statement about how the Great Commission may not be for everyone. I clarify that statement in this episode saying that while cross cultural evangelism may not be, the call for all believers is to make disciples. 
Episode mentioned:
Ep 108 - Fear of Failure Driving the Holy Search for God's Will in Your Life, On Considering Obedience to God and Serving the Local Body
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Ep 109 - Are you Selfless or a People-Pleaser, Identifying your Needs, Letting your Husband be your Children's Father

I put Ashley on the hot seat by getting into this conversation without warning or context. I like to get her first drafts on things and so in this conversation we talk about how she has felt she's changed in being able to identify her needs. The conversation morphs into talking about whether or not she thinks she's a people pleaser and how she's let me be the father to our children as we raise them.
Resources mentioned:
Book on Love Styles: How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
 
Next episode recommended: Ep 25 - How We Love & Argue, The Vacillator, How it affects our relationship
 
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Ep 108 - Fear of Failure Driving the Holy Search for God's Will in Your Life, On Considering Obedience to God and Serving the Local Body

We unpack how in some cases our search for God's will is seen as a pursuit of holiness but in reality is a fear of failure that could bring ruin to your life. The beauty of the Gospel is that we've already been found out as failures, and the Lord has provided a way out through his son, Jesus Christ. We talk about the implications for a family looking to be obedient to the Lord and how serving in the ministry has changed as we have grown as a family.
 
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Ep 107 - Artificial Intelligence, Pondering the Correct Christian Ethic around the Rapid Development of Technology, Finding God’s will for your Life

We talk about the rapid development of Artificial Intelligence and some of the ways we’re currently using it in our house. Then we also discuss how we should think about these quick changes in the technological world we live in as a Christian family. How do we live in the technological world honoring the Lord in how we engage with it. Do we engage with it at all? Do we use it to improve our lives and those around us? 
 
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Ep 106 - Type A vs Type B couple setting New Years Resolutions, Goal Setting and Leveraging Technology, What Drives Someone to Set Goals

I interview Ashley in this one on what has been the motivating factor for why she basically automatically sets goals for her year at the beginning of each year. We are so different in this regard so we talk about how we approach goal setting from opposite angles. We talk about the goals we’re setting, the systems we use, and the approaches we take.
 
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